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Dating Decalogue

Dating Decalogue

Dating Decalogue

We create healthy boundaries by, naming our limits

 

You shall have no other gods.

God is jealous or passionate for us.  We are created in that passionate image.  It’s important be clear and honest about our boundaries.  What do we like? What drives us mad? God is up front with us in the decalogue.  Therefore we ought to be upfront with others especially when it comes to dating this is how we glorify God on the dating scene.

 

 

You shall not take God’s name in vain.

When we call on the name of God we ought to expect that God will show up.  The porn stars comes to mind for me here, “O G*d, O my *ing Gd”. It’s appropriate that we call God into the date.  Ideally we hope to see God more clearly in the person with whom we date. And they should see God in us.

 

Honor the Sabbath and Keep it holy.  

Sabbath is about setting aside time to enjoy the rest or fullness or God.  It involves full disclosure on our parts we ought to hold nothing back from God on the sabbath.  What would it be like to take this sabbath approach to dating? It’s a real blessing to devote your full attention to someone, so put the phone away.  

 

Honor your parents

One of the firsts romantic relationships that we encounter is the one between our parents, for better or for worse.  It’s worth examining that relationship. We can honor it by bringing the best parts of that romance to our date. We also honor that relationship by holding the worst parts of our parents relationship at a healthy distance from the date.  

 

Don’t kill

Okay, don’t murder your date seems like a good safety tip. But there are ways that we kill a person without committing homicide.  We ought to feel more alive following a date that when we started. What are things that are life giving to you? What things crush the life from you?  These questions are very worth exploring with the person you would like to date.

 

Don’t commit adultery

Adultery is having sex with someone who is married to someone else.  Whew, that’s good news since under 10% of us waited until we were married to have sex.  It’s part of Christian tradition to teach that sex is for marriage. That’s true sex is for marriage in that its an important dimension of the kind of intimacy that builds a holy relationship that God intended for creation.  In this way sex is pro-creative. I believe that when we use sex without intimacy we commit a kind of adultery. Thoughts?

 

Don’t steal

Since I broached the sex topic let’s stick with that for a bit.  The thing about sex is that it’s always expensive and not in a sex worker kind of way.  Sex costs us emotionally, physically, and spiritually (just to name a few of the currencies).  What if engaging in sex without being ready for that investment is stealing from your date, from yourself, from God?

 

Don’t bear false witness

Try to be yourself.  Help your date be themselves.  Be truthful, and kind. Build each other up.  In this way you will glorify God.

 

Don’t covet your neighbor’s partner

Help build relationships around your rather than sabotage them out of jealousy.

Moreover, If you can’t be with the one you love honey, love the one you’re with.  Beware of your fantasies, it’s good to admire the relationships that your neighbors enjoy. But it’s unhealthy to project your fantasy on your date without inviting them into the reality of that aspirational goal.  It took a good bit of work in the relationship that your neighbors have. Coveting is wanting something without being willing to put in the work.

 

Don’t covet your neighbor’s house(hold)

Coveting is also about wanting what other people have.  On the dating front it’s also about letting other people’s expectations overwhelms yours. It’s distracting inviting a third person on a date (other than God).  When you date bear in mind what you want and what your date wants. Not how finally going on that date will look to your peer group or to your mother.

Harry Potter and The Sacred Text: Week 3

Harry Potter and The Sacred Text: Week 3

This week concludes our series on Harry Potter and the Sacred Text. Nick Kilpatrick and Mitchell Eithun (a Harry Potter Neophyte) will be leading the message. The theme is Generosity and we are reading Keeper of the Keys, Book 1, Chapter 4.   Come to worship in your best Hogwarts attire. 8 pm at Wesley Student Centre, 1118 S. Harrison Road.

Harry Potter and The Sacred Text

Harry Potter and The Sacred Text

It part two of three of Harry Potter and the Sacred Text. Although Harry Potter is a secular text it has had an impact on our culture. We will engage the book with some approaches to reading sacred scripture.  This Thursday Amanda Northrup and Pastor Bill will dive into Fear: Letters from No One (Book 1, Chapter 3).  Come to worship in your best Hogwarts attire. 8p at Wesley Student Centre, 1118 S. Harrison Road.

Spring Break Mission to Charleston SC

Spring Break Mission to Charleston SC

We are headed to Charleston South Carolina to help build a Habitat for Humanity House. March 3-10.  Join us at an informational meeting Jan 26 at 5:30 at University Lutheran Church next door to Wesley.

Wesley Day Trip – Nov. 5, 2017

Wesley Day Trip – Nov. 5, 2017

The Wesley Retreat is scheduled for Sunday November 5 from 10-5p. Our theme is All Saints Day and we will remember and reflect Saintly people in our lives. We will start the van run at 9am and leave from Wesley at 9:30a. We are heading to Echo Center in Stockbridge MI, for some team building, hiking, mountain biking, and zip-lining. The cost is $10. Here’s the link for the Facebook event!

Thank God it’s Thursday – Oct. 26, 2017

Thank God it’s Thursday – Oct. 26, 2017

Relationships and the Christian Life. Over the next four weeks we are exploring the world of the relationships: Roommates, Lovers, Family and Friends. We all struggle from time to time in these kind of relationship and being a Christian doesn’t make them easier. However, our faith traditions have a way of helping us agree upon boundaries, behaviors and identity that make these relationship transformative and life giving. Come and join us for this week where we will drill down on the roommate relationship. Thursday at 8pm.